Although it’s always important for men to enjoy time to themselves, with both Men’s Health Week and Father’s Day happening in June, it’s an ideal time to discuss the benefits of ‘me time’ for mental health.
Too often, the pressures and expectations placed on men to be strong providers can take a toll, making it tough for guys to open up about their struggles or simply take a break from life’s demands. So, whether it’s bonding over the Euros 2024 or getting more active outdoors, there are some great ways for men to step back from everyday pressures and dedicate a bit more time to themselves.
This article highlights some ways to encourage male friends, family members and colleagues to prioritise their mental and physical health.
Make time to focus on your mental health
Men’s Health Week (MHW) – from the 10th-16th June – is a fantastic campaign that encourages people to share resources and raise awareness about the health issues affecting men, including their mental wellbeing. At the heart of men’s mental health is the need to break down the stigma surrounding vulnerability and open communication, so it’s important to consider different ways to encourage men to focus on their mental health.
Therefore, to support this year’s MHW, you might want to ‘wear blue’ the Friday before Father’s Day or spend quality time alone in your garden room. While it is certainly true that socialising with friends is valuable, retreating to a personal space can provide a great sense of peace. Having your own ‘’man cave’ or garage is somewhere that offers some much-needed alone time to relax or indulge in a favourite hobby.
There are other enjoyable ways for you to focus on yourself and it is just as vital and valid for men to do this as it is for women. Reports show there are several reasons why men often suffer more from mental health issues, including:
- Men report lower levels of life satisfaction than women.
- They are less likely to access therapies or talking therapies compared to women, with only 36% of referrals to NHS talking therapies being for men.
- Nearly three-quarters of adults who go missing are men.
- A significant majority (87%) of rough sleepers are men.
- Men are nearly three times as likely as women to become dependent on alcohol and three times as likely to report frequent drug use.
- Men are more likely to be victims of violent crime (1.5 times more likely than women).
- Men make up the vast majority of the prison population.
Spread the word
With these factors in mind, the more awareness shared about men’s mental health the better. The good news is that there are already some amazing online resources, support groups, and great causes and projects that focus on men’s mental health.
The more you spread the word about important causes that shine a light on men’s mental and physical wellbeing, the better. For communities and individuals, awareness days and fundraising events all play an integral part in helping to support young boys and adults of any gender suffering with mental health issues. In addition, training sessions at work, volunteering opportunities and ongoing campaigns are fantastic ways for people to keep the focus alive.
Take time to recharge and bond
By carving out dedicated ‘me time’ for men of every age, and embracing activities that allow them to recharge, men can reduce stress, strengthen personal bonds, and gain a valuable new perspective on life. There’s no denying the unique connection that forms when a group of men get together for a weekend hiking or a football match. These male bonding experiences provide a safe space for guys to let their guards down, and share what’s really on their minds without fear of judgement.
Hitting the local with your friends or checking in for a chat and haircut at the barbers are great ways to share jokes and quality banter. Rather than defaulting to surface-level chit-chat, make a conscious effort to check in on your friends’ wellbeing and encourage deeper discussions. On a personal level, you might be surprised at how therapeutic it can be to open up about personal challenges or sources of anxiety.
Plan a lad’s trip or share an activity
For the more adventurous types, planning an annual ‘lads’ holiday’ or arranging a summer trip can be an incredibly rewarding experience. It’s no secret that men tend to be drawn to competitive activities, whether it’s organised sports, a fundraising skydive, or a weekend away playing darts or tennis. Exercise and being active has been proven to boost mood and reduce stress thanks to the release of endorphins. Group sports and activities also foster a sense of camaraderie, ensuring that you stay fit while enjoying quality time with your mates.
If you’re not the athletic type, don’t worry – even casual games like playing cards, pool, or video games can provide an outlet for some healthy competition and male bonding. The key is finding activities that allow you to engage with other guys in a fun, low-pressure environment where you can forget about your worries for a while.
Prioritise treating yourself
When it comes to prioritising self-care for men, the reality is that it shouldn’t be viewed as a luxury but rather as a necessity for optimising mental or physical health and happiness. Men are more likely to overlook the value of simple routines that can have a profoundly positive impact on their mental wellbeing and physical appearance.
Far from having a haircut, a visit to the barber is a great excuse to take a break from the pressures of work or family commitments and indulge in some well-deserved pampering. Beyond the physical act of grooming, barbers are a great environment to chat.
Likewise, plan some treats that are just for you, such as doing something social that you love, meditating or even taking a long, relaxing bath. Although these might seem trivial, they can have a profound impact on your overall sense of calm and wellbeing.
Break down the stigma
Although some men in the UK might still tend to bottle feelings up, there are positive changes that are being made to break the stigma of mental health. It is crucial for men to remember that vulnerability is a strength and not a weakness. MatesinMind reiterates that there is “no health without mental health” and encourages everyone to start the conversation about mental health to help address the stigma that surrounds it.
There is positive change, however, with a recent ‘Time to Talk Day’ survey revealing that 54% of men were comfortable speaking about their mental health compared to 46% of women. Therefore, by creating spaces where men feel comfortable sharing their fears, insecurities, and challenges without judgement, people can continue to create a culture of talking, sharing support and understanding that benefits everyone.
Whether it’s through organised support groups or having more open conversations with friends or family, prioritising your mental health and wellbeing is just as important as your physical health. Therefore, this month and beyond, make time for yourself and take proactive steps to prioritise those activities and people that matter most to you.
